Parents are responsible for caring for and giving our children everything they need for their healthy development, from their physical health to their emotional education. And without a doubt, one of the things that most concerns us as parents is making sure that our children are happy .
It is well known that the first years of life will be the foundation for their social and emotional development in the future, so it is extremely important to ensure that we are giving them the necessary tools. Therefore, today we talk about how to raise happy children and we share the keys to positive parenting .
Happy children: the goal of all parents
Happiness is something we all aspire to. Having a life with which we feel calm, full and happy is undoubtedly one of the goals that many of us want, not only for ourselves, but also for our own children. As parents, our mission is that: to help our children to be happy. But how to do it? What steps should we take to achieve it?
From Espacio Vida , they have shared with us a very complete infographic to be able to raise happy children, based on developmental psychology :
In it, we can observe some of the most important points to raise happy children , so starting from that, we share a little more about each one, and how you can carry them out at home.
In Babies and more we are promoters of parenting with attachment or respectful parenting, as well as positive discipline , of which we have spoken on several occasions.
There are different types of attachment , but the one that will help us to have happy children is the secure attachment, which is the one in which a relationship is fostered where there is communication, care and affective demonstrations , providing children with security, but also the necessary tools. to develop their autonomy.
a healthy environment
The environment in which children develop greatly influences not only their emotional development, but also the possible problems they may face in the future . Various studies have found that growing up in a conflictive or violent environment increases the chances of having problems at school or falling into risky behaviors, such as alcohol and drugs.
Let us remember that the environment in which children grow up will also lay the foundations for the type of relationships they have with other people , so it is important that they develop in an environment of respect and affection, in which they are taken into account and where family conflicts are resolved as amicably and peacefully as possible , regardless of whether the parents are together or apart. Our website is completely build for parenting keep visiting for more topics.
Recognize your efforts
One of the keys to being happy is to feel good about ourselves. But feeling good about yourself is something that comes from within and that begins to be fostered from childhood. So as parents, it is up to us to guide our children so that they have good self-esteem, confidence and self-confidence .
To achieve this, we need to pay attention not only to the way we treat them, but also to the words we say to them and how we say them: do we only recognize when they manage to do something well or do we also praise their efforts? It seems like a simple question, but the answer is more important than we think.
Sometimes we think that the best we can do is make them see their mistakes and only praise them when they do things correctly, but this could make it difficult for them to handle the frustration when they fail. Instead of just pointing out their mistakes , we should also praise their efforts , so that they keep trying and gradually increase their self-confidence.
Have limits and be constant
Contrary to what some people believe, attachment parenting or respectful parenting is not equivalent to never setting limits and letting children do what they want . Doing it that way would only result in disoriented and insecure children, because no one ever told them how far they could go.
Our role as parents, in addition to being guides and providing them with a safe place, is to set limits clearly, firmly and consistently , explaining them in such a way that they understand them and can understand how important they are , and always doing so with respect and with the example.
Work on your emotional education
Academic education corresponds to the school, emotional education to parents . Working on it since they are babies and helping them manage their emotions when they are older is essential for their healthy development and happiness .
We must support and guide our children so that they can understand, identify and manage their emotions , not only to prevent them from being emotionally illiterate , but also so that they can also have a positive relationship with themselves and with other people.
Take care of our mental and emotional health
And last but not least: our mental and emotional health. How can we expect to raise happy and safe children if we ourselves do not take care of these aspects of our lives? Being mothers and fathers, it is easy to forget ourselves, but if we are not feeling well emotionally, we will not be able to transmit that well-being to our children, nor promote healthy development in them .
For this, we must find time for ourselves alone , in which we can dedicate ourselves to doing those activities that make us feel better , as well as attending to any mental health problems or concerns that we have.
With these keys based on positive parenting, we can help our children grow and develop in a healthy way, making them happy children and, eventually, adults .